There's a moment when you see that perfect ring, the one that feels like it was made just for your story——When Sarah showed us her custom toi et moi design, her face lit up: "This pear-shaped diamond captures my softness, while the square sapphire reflects his steady strength." It's this beautiful conversation between two stones that's making toi et moi rings the surprise star of 2025 engagements.
Your Love Story Deserves Its Own Signature
If every relationship is unique, why should engagement rings look the same? The toi et moi (French for "you and me") design speaks to couples who want their ring to reflect how two distinct individuals create something beautiful together.
It's not just jewelry—it's a wearable representation of your bond. This is the new reality of fine jewelry: you no longer have to choose between size, quality, and design.
From Napoleon's Passion to Your Personal Romance
The style's origin story couldn't be more romaaaantic! What makes modern toi et moi rings so special is how they capture the unique narrative:
Back in 1796, Napoleon Bonaparte proposed to Josephine with a gold ring featuring a pear-shaped diamond and sapphire side by side. At a time when their relationship raised eyebrows (Josephine was an older widow), the ring became a powerful statement: two different souls choosing to build a life together.
A Ring Tells Your Story
• "Fateful meeting" —— Combine birthstones like pearl (June) and sapphire (September) to mark your love
• "Different but perfect" —— Pair a soft pear-shaped moissanite with a structured emerald-cut lab diamond
• "Shared passions" —— Capture the blue of his favorite ocean in a sapphire alongside the diamond that reminds you of starlit promises
Styling for Real Life
Worried a two-stone ring might be too much? Here's how to wear it effortlessly:
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For the workplace: Choose moderately-sized stones on a slender band—elegant but professional
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Weekend vibes: Stack with a simple wedding band for a casual yet put-together look
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Special evenings: Wear it solo as the star of your outfit
Tips from La Pretti
"Don't hesitate to mix different stone shapes," shares La Pretti's design director Catherine. "Recently, a client combined an oval lab diamond with a heart-shaped morganite, and the result was breathtaking. The secret is choosing stones with similar saturation levels so they look like they belong together."
Mark your Beginning, Encapsulates your Journey
At its heart, the return of the toi et moi ring is a celebration of modern relationship—a love that is multifaceted, deeply personal, and beautifully imperfect. It proves that the most profound connections aren't about one person overshadowing the other, but about two distinct souls shining together.
